GIVE: Connect By The Spirit — Mend Broken Relationships

GIVE … by the Spirit™ Guest Contributor — Grace Ste. Croix

Mend Broken Relationships

© 2011 Grace Ste. Croix

April 4, 2011

Friendships are to be cherished. We are often more harsh on our friends then on strangers. Friends are held on a high pedestal; we have shared our secrets, dreams and fears with those dearest to us. Like all things held in high regard, it is a long fall from the top of said pedestal. Even with the closest friend, misinterpretations, spilled secrets, and harsh judgments can cause our relationships over time to sever. Perhaps your friendship has faded over busy schedules, disagreements or even fights. In other cases friends slowly become acquaintances and sometimes fade even more.

In the light of April, the month of birth, we should mend our broken relationships and reconnect with those we have lost. Think of broken relationships you have had with others over the years. Was the fight petty? Did you say things you should not have? Could what was said to you have been misinterpreted as something much worse than what it was? Each broken relationship must be individually analyzed and dissected by one question: Was the fight worth losing your friend?

“This is my commandment that you love one another, just as I have loved you”. John 15:12

If the friendship is mourned, and harsh words were regretted, then you are a prime candidate for mending a broken relationship. How to get in touch with this old friend? Simple, send off a quick email or letter just stating that the fight was not worth losing a friend. Do not expect an answer right away, your friend needs time for what you said to brew and perhaps in time they will respond. Each individual takes their time to reconnect.

However, if you felt as strongly about the relationship, chances are your friend feels the same. If they chose not to move forward with you, then at least you have put your feelings to rest about apologizing. The art of “letting go” can really help your bad festered feelings to dissipate, and aid you in moving forward. It will hurt, but you are able to continue forward and have an open heart to new friendships.

“Though a host encamp against me, My heart will not fear; Though war arise against me, In spite of this I shall be confident” Psalms 27:3

It is possible that your friend will respond and slowly you rebuild your fractured relationship. Like a physical break, our friendships will heal stronger than before. However, like all things, it will take time. Mending any broken relationships puts your heart at ease and allows you to keep true to yourself. Though you may not always get the outcome you expected, you feel better being honest with yourself and therefore you carry less baggage in the long haul.

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One Response

  1. A powerful reminder of the spiritual and emotional value of re-connection. Thank you!

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