LIVE: Love by the Spirit — Grow Up and Grow in Love

LIVE! … By the Spirit™ with Kathleen E. Walls

Grow Up and Grow in Love

© 2011 Kathleen E. Walls

February 7, 2011

Throughout life, I feel that we have been told and led to believe that when it comes to relationships that we must “Fall in Love”.  When I was talking with a friend a few years ago, he said that he didn’t agree with the concept of “falling in love” because usually when someone fell, they got hurt.

I was reminded of this concept the other day, after a lot of snow and ice, when I started walking down some steps and my feet left from underneath me…boom, bang, bounce…I went down the steps.  I got back up, shook it off, and proceeded to continue down the next set of steps and once again…boom, bang, bounce…I had fallen again!  And guess what…it hurt!  I immediately felt my arm getting tender…I knew there was going to be a bruise.
As I reflected on the concept of “falling in love”, I began to wonder, “how many times have people ‘fallen in love’, and gotten hurt and/or ended up with a bruise (i.e. heartache, baggage, etc.)? Over the years, I have heard couples say that they have “fallen in and out of love” during the course of their relationship but that their love has remained throughout.  Knowing that our thoughts and words reflect our outer reality, I began to think about what I would prefer, and that’s when it came…I would like to Grow up and Grow in Love.
I thought about the infamous 1 Corinthians 13:4, “Love is patient, love is kind…” and reflected on it’s words. I have often felt that this scripture gives a great description of Divine love.  I have referred to it many times as a “checklist or checkpoint” so to speak, when I started “feeling some kind of way” when I was in a relationship…you know when you may not be as patient or kind, you may start to feel envious or jealous…I would refer to the scripture to remind me of what Love is and not what I said it was or wanted it to be.
During this reflection, I had a conversation with a friend, as we talked, we discussed the importance of maturing in our understanding and expression of love.  I thought about the saying “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me…” as I looked to read and locate the quote, to my amusement it was in the same scripture, 1 Corinthians 13:11. Again, I was reminded that it is important to Grow Up and Grow in Love.

As we come into the week before Valentine’s Day, a day celebrated by many to show acts of “love”, the expectations of “love” become very high and at times blurred and unrealistic.  As a woman, friend and clinician, I have seen the infamous V-day sadly resemble a “love D-day”, where there have been many hurts, disappointments, arguments, and break-ups because of unfulfilled fantasies and beliefs about what love is and how it should look or be expressed.  These internal images and/or expectations may stem from a variety of sources including childhood fantasies, movies, and/or friends.

So as we Grow Up and Grow in Love, I encourage you to take some time and reflect on:

  1. Your thoughts of Love
  2. How you express Love
  3. How you receive Love

I also encourage you to take some time to read 1 Corinthians 13, and reflect on its definition as well as assess how it resounds in you.

Just as a seed that is planted and needs to be nurtured, I encourage you to nurture the Love that is within you and around you.  As you are being led to Love By The Spirit, this nurturing will help you to Grow Up and Grow in Love.

God Bless and continue to Live By The Spirit.

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2 Responses

  1. I have a whole new perspective on Love now WOW!!

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