GIVE: Open by the Spirit — May You be Open to Your Own Brand of Beauty

GIVE! … By the Spirit™ with Dr. Pennie Murray

May You be Open to Your Own Brand of Beauty

© 2010 Pennie Murray

May 18, 2010

Last week I wished that you open yourself up to be re-molded in mind, emotion, body and spirit. This week I want to go a step further and wish that you be open to your own brand of beauty that sheds light on the world around you.

So often, we take a non-participatory role in the molding and shaping of who we are. We leave this responsibility to the relationships we find ourselves in, to the opinions of others, to the groups we are associated with, or we have allowed our negative history to shape and define us.

To our chagrin, as individuals, we have become less effective in our ability to influence or make a difference in the world around us because we’ve willingly settled for conformity—marching robotically to the same beat as everyone else. For whatever reason, we’ve become fearful and feel less worthy or significant when our lives, appearances and gifts don’t mimic those around us. Unfortunately, we have lost the passion to possess our own individual brand of beauty and meaning.

As a personal success coach I run into a lot of people who are lost in the rat race of people pleasing, stuck in survival mode, or maintaining the status quo. They have worn so many different masks and costumes to please so many different people, cater to so many different egos, and to not make any waves that they no longer know who they really are. More importantly, they confess that they are unsure as to “who” they were really intended to be or do.

I have a little card that an older woman gave me years ago during a time when I was barely hanging on to my self-esteem. I keep it in my billfold, and every now and then I run across it when I’m looking for something else. It says, “I have become the beautiful woman I hoped I’d grow up to be.” When the woman gave me the card, her intent was to encourage me to see the beauty I possessed inside, despite my external situation.

However, I have always read this statement not as an affirmation, but as a reality check. It reminds me of the years I abdicated my responsibilities in maintaining the essence, beauty, and true meaning of my life. In doing so, I was not only guilty of allowing my life to become unmanageable, but I was also guilty of losing my internal radiance and spirit in the chaos.

The card reminds me that as a little girl, I did have a dream of becoming a beautiful woman of distinction who would impact the world in my own significant way. And because of that, the card has become the gauge I use to measure what I have done to stay the course of becoming the beautiful woman I hoped I’d grow up to be.

I believe that God wants us to take a strong, active, responsible role in shaping and defining our brand of beauty, which helps us find clarity, purpose and virtuosity. To do less is a travesty to ourselves; it dishonors the God spirit within us, and leaves the world darker.

The dictionary defines “beauty” as the quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind. I am sure beauty is a word that has no definitive or absolute meaning, but I’m even surer that few of us have really endeavored to let your own brand of beauty so shine before the world, that all may see our inner quality as a testament of God.

I have a challenge for you. The next time you look in the mirror to make sure you’re cloning the world’s definition of beauty, I dare you to ask yourself, “How has my own authentic brand of beauty positively impacted those around me?” And if you are not so impressed with the honest answer, I double dare you to be open to start creating and living your own brand of beauty. I’d like to hear your comments on this!

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One Response

  1. Pennie,

    This is a wonderful post and call to action!



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