GIVE: Fortify By The Spirit — With Spirit Life Can Be an Assortment of Chocolates

GIVE! … By the Spirit™ with Dr. Pennie Murray

With Spirit Life Can Be an Assortment of Chocolates

© 2010 Pennie Murray

March 30, 2010

Box of Chocolates

Probably many of us remember the infamous quote from the character Forrest Gump who said, “Life is like a box of chocolates; you never know what you’re gonna get.” Well, at least not until you pick it up and bite into it. If you’re like me, I will go through a box of chocolate taking little nibbles off each chocolate morsel until I found one I like. Not too long ago I received a box of chocolates from a friend and went into my normal ritual of nibbling to find the one I liked. By the third piece I had one of my weird moments of enlightenment. In that moment I realized that believe it or not, we can experience life in the same way.

Many would never consider treating the situations (good or bad) they face in life like an assortment of chocolates available for them to taste and reject. But, if you think about it, that’s exactly what we do. The problem is, instead of taking a nibble and admitting the situation or circumstance is not of our liking, we continue to consume it—as though we are obligated to misery. The key is to look at the many situations of life as possible opportunities, in which we nibble off just enough of each situation to find the one opportunity that truly fulfills us.

The initial first bite as it relates to anything in our lives is filled with an anxiety that says; “Will I like it” or “Will I hate it? “Should I take a chance now or later?” “Is this meant for me or someone else?” Taking a risk to sample life as it comes to us is a hard choice for those who are addicted to their comfort zone or have had their choices dictated to them by someone else. Taking a chance to sample your life as if it were a box of assorted chocolates can lead you to your greatest success. Actually, there is an assumption amongst neuro-linguistics that the more choices available to you, the greater your chances to succeed.

Unfortunately, for a mass majority, our fear, excuses and inhibition pretty much stops us cold in our tracks. More importantly, if our pride and security is threatened, we tend to retreat to our protected shell of the “familiar”, even though it’s never been sweet enough. Where we may take one bite, if it is not to our liking, we’re not inclined to keep sampling with an attitude that the right moment and situation is waiting for us. More often than not we give up or become bitter naysayers.

While I understand these anxieties and emotional disruptions, it would truly be madness for any of us to get stuck in our fears and not nibble at the “possibilities” of life. Over the years, I’ve realized that most of us (me included) are afraid to sample the sweet possibilities of life because we are shackled to our past failed attempts, mistakes, poor self-judgment, negative others, and a failure to enrich ourselves.

According to John Fisher’s “Process of Transition” because of the constantly changing nature of our nature we are not “the victims of our biography.” This means you have the choice (although sometimes it may not appear that way) at any time to give yourself permission to embrace your power to strengthen and reinvigorate your life. When you choose to transform “what is” to “what can be” you‘re only limited in your vision of yourself and your future by your own internal blinders.

Life is like a box of chocolates, and you’re not going to like every piece (life situation) you bite from—that’s what is so great about variety and choice. Heck to be honest, you may even take a bite that initial seems delightful, only to find out, after a few chews, that it wasn’t as satisfying as you first thought. The key is to never miss a chance to try another morsel and another—until you find the one (circumstance, situation, person) that is not just gratifying, but fortifies your life.

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One Response

  1. I too have grappled with an issue for two years now. Many times those closest to us – or continually in close proximity to us: cause the greatest emotional turmoil. Often we give very sound advice to others. However, there comes a time when we must take a dose of our own medicine – no matter how bitter the potion.

    Isaiah 55:8 (New International Version)
    8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
    neither are your ways my ways,”
    declares the LORD.

    Proverbs 3:5 (New International Version)
    5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;

    James 1:5 (New International Version)
    5If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

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