GIVE: Fortify By The Spirit — With Spirit You Find a Truer Friend in You

GIVE! … By the Spirit™ with Dr. Pennie Murray

With Spirit You Find a Truer Friend in You

© 2010 Pennie Murray

March 9, 2010

In my seminars and workshops I refer to myself as “The Success Advocate.” In other words, when people talk to me about their dreams, I am transformed into someone who believes in, campaigns for, encourages, and is in favor of their success. While they might be clouded by their limits — I only see their possibilities. I see this as a spiritual gift, and I take it very seriously.  Anybody who has spent any length of time with me knows if your life’s goal is to simply take up space and suck up air, then it’s not a good idea to talk to me.

Initially, the irony of this gift was I somehow couldn’t use it at full throttle on myself. What I mean is, when I went into business for myself 22 years ago, I often struggled with self-doubt, uncertainty and sometimes just plain confusion as to what I was actually supposed to do next. I would always say, “It’s hard to believe in yourself, by yourself.” For me, I really needed someone to brainstorm with, someone to challenge my thought process and perceptions, someone to remind me of my strengths when my weaker self was acting out. Basically, I wanted that “someone” to be available to give me a boost, to restore my sense of self, to simply fortify me. My constant complaint was, “Why can’t I find someone who will be there for me, like I am there for others?”

As I’ve grown over the years, in age and wisdom, I’ve realized that our gifts are not so much for our own personal consumption—they are to fortify or edify others. I realized that God provided people and situations that were my advocates. The problem was I wanted it to come from the people I selected or the circumstance I wanted, which rarely happened. My thought process and perceptions were challenged by people I couldn’t stand—none the less, they enriched my character. And yes, when life refused to fulfill my desires, it was another lesson of strength and authenticity. More importantly, I realized that God delayed that “someone” because He wanted me to know that I could believe in myself by myself. But this could never occur until I learned to be a truer friend to myself—to advocate for Pennie like I advocated for others.

Scholar William Arthur Ward said it best, “A true friend knows your weaknesses but shows you your strengths; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but frees your spirit; recognizes your disabilities but emphasizes your possibilities.” With Spirit you can find a truer friend in yourself than you desire from others.

It’s time to take the sign off your forehead that pleads to others, “Will you be my friend,” and put it on your mirror where it will do the greatest good.

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2 Responses

  1. That’s my favorite line too!!!! :::getting a post-it note as I type for a daily reminder:::

  2. “It’s time to take the sign off your forehead that pleads to others, “Will you be my friend,” and put it on your mirror where it will do the greatest good.”

    You….are…so…right! What a great visual and reminder!

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